When we got married

We chose everything that would be said in the ceremony. When I was researching I came upon a German poet Rainer Maria Rilke and his pieces called "Letters to a Young Poet."

In the ceremony we had the minister say this quote. . .

"The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his solitude, and thus they show each other the greatest possible trust. A merging of two people is an impossibility, and where it seems to exist, it is a hemming-in, a mutual consent that robs one party or both parties of their fullest freedom and development. But once the realization is accepted that even between the closest people infinite distances exist, a marvelous living side-by-side can grow up for them, if they succeed in loving the expanse between them, which gives them the possibility of always seeing each other as a whole and before an immense sky."

I believed it then and I believe it now. In fact it becomes more and more true as time goes on.

In May we will have been married for 11 years. I can't imagine spending my life with any other than Justin. He is my perfect man and I am madly in love with him.