The death of a parent

is a horror that I have not experienced. But Justin's dad passed away about 5 weeks ago(about a week before I miscarried). He had bone cancer and was in a great deal of pain, so that he went sooner rather than later is a blessing, though it is really difficult still--the loss. What is also difficult is the aftermath: the emotions, the estate, etc. Justin's perspective is that he wants to just get everything settled and move on. And it is actually moving along pretty well I think, but Justin seems to want instant results. We spent three weeks cleaning our garage in anticipation of getting one of his dad's classic cars: a 1961 chevy impala bubbletop. Now the POD has been dropped off and we put a tone of stuff back in the garage--stuff we did not want, and stuff that should have been left in Denver. Anyway, we have a whole lot of train sets and match safe to sell.

His dad's death has brought up alot of crap from Justin's childhood. Justin was adopted by Dale when he was 3 years old and he and Justin's mother got married. Justin was not informed of this until he was around 13 years old, at which point his mom and dad said in passing "You know, Dale is not your real dad." That brought alot of things into focus for Justin forcing him to see how he had been treated differently by Phillip's family members. He has always been made to feel that he is not a real Phillips by certain members of the family. Tonight, Justin was told that his two sibling are beneficiaries on an account and he is not. That is a kick in the gut. Why would this dad do this? I don't know, but Justin is hurt--really hurt. This is going to take alot of therapy.